The newspaper headline instantly grabbed my attention: “Demi worries about being unlovable”.
The article, published in early 2012, highlighted an interview actress Demi Moore did just a week after she filed for divorce from actor Ashton Kutcher, star of the TV sitcoms That ‘70s Show and Two and a Half Men.
Moore, best known for movies such as Ghost, A Few Good Men and Charlie’s Angels: Full Throttle, said this to Harper’s Bazaar magazine: “What scares me is I’m going to find out at the end of my life that I’m … not worthy of being loved. That there’s something fundamentally wrong with me…”
It’s a startlingly frank statement for a media star like Moore to make, but it addresses a common human fear. There were many years of my life when I felt exactly the same.
But here’s the thing: since deciding to follow Jesus of Nazareth (who many people believe is God’s Son) in 2002, I’ve learned that it’s not all that important whether I feel unlovable. Because it’s simply not the truth.
The evidence? Consider these words from one of the primary source documents of Jesus’ life: “God loved the world so much that He gave His only Son, so that everyone who believes in Him would not be lost, but have eternal life.” I know ‘the world’ includes me and I’m pretty sure Demi Moore makes the cut, too. (In fact, EVERYONE qualifies, whether we like it or not.)
How about this, written by Paul, a missionary who spent much of his life telling others about Jesus: “Christ died for us while we were still sinners, and by this God showed how much He loves us.” Once again, there are no qualifiers. Everyone can accept this gift, from Demi Moore to the worst person you can imagine.
Finally, this quote from an ancient prophet may be the most amazing of all: “You are precious to Me [God], and I have given you a special place of honour. I love you. That’s why I am willing to trade others, to give up whole nations, to save your life.”
When I read these excerpts, I’m reminded all over again why I decided to follow Jesus. By accepting the gift of His death and resurrection for all the wrong things I’ve done (and all the RIGHT things I HAVEN’T done), I give my love to the One who loved me first.
Jesus’ sacrifice addresses another part of Demi Moore’s statement – feeling like there’s something fundamentally wrong with her. That’s not just a feeling; it’s dead-on true. But not just for Demi – for me, too. And for you.
Indeed, there’s something ‘fundamentally wrong’ with every person on earth: we think we’re God, that we don’t need our creator and we can do whatever we want. So many of our planet’s problems are the result of this selfish thinking.
But rather than simply judge and convict us, God showed how much He loves humanity by reaching out and offering us the gift of Jesus. What’s keeping you from accepting it?
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Wow, what a pile of crap for an article. I thought this was going to be a interesting yet intelligent response to Demi Moore’s emotional troubles.
Thanks for your comment, Victor. Can you tell me which parts you disagreed with so I can perhaps explain them better?
You had me until you started talking religion… which was very short… I was raised Catholic and went to church ever Saturday… that’s right Saturday I’m a rebel that way… to serve as an altar server.
I am not a lost sheep led astray from her flock but am a woman who has never gotten any real evidence that God exists… Miracles can be explained away by science and those that can’t well I chalk it up to anomilies.
I agree with Victor on this one… I was expecting something more substantial and less preachy….
Thanks for your comment, Dominique. Just one question: when you witness a stunning sunset, an incredible waterfall or a perfectly still wilderness lake, have you ever been overwhelmed by a feeling of thankfulness? If yes, who do you thank?
Interesting. Preach this to the millions who die in Africa due to undernourishment and lack of access to clean water.
Thanks for your thoughtful comment, Alisha. You bring up a point that many people struggle with when it comes to thinking about God. You might find this Frank’s Cottage essay useful: http://bit.ly/NZM4mH
Thank you for this article; I love it!! Hopefully, the deceived people will turn away from deception and acknowledge the truth that God is all-loving and Jesus is alive and well, sitting at the right hand of The Father.
Christianity is not a religion; it’s a personal relationship with Jesus, the One who loves you so much that He took a beating and was crucified for you in order to be saved for eternity!
Please don’t let the religions of this world get you confused and deceived; it’s all about Jesus, not man-made philosophies and rules. Once you can comprehend this, everything just falls into place and you realize what once was important in your life in the world no longer matters.
The love a human can give you is so weak compared to God’s love for you. Just give Him a chance and see what happens. Open a Bible and let it speak to you; God said to test Him, let Him show you! He can and will do marvelous things if only you give Him that chance! God bless you all.
I enjoyed the article. You’re Christian and so am I. There are key elements that Demi never brought up in that interview. One was the fact that her and Ashton were swinging with others and she liked being with women. So in some ways, I’m not buying into her “Something is wrong with me and I’m not worthy of love”.
Maybe if Demi built her house on the rock [of Christian faith], it would not have come crashing down.
Thanks very much for a very nice, inspiring article Frank.
Thanks for reading and commenting, Sally. I appreciate it. 🙂
Your Jesus is a joker & Christianity/Bible a bad joke.
These people in d world full of their insecurities & fears at least are honest & truthful, unlike the Christians who are just a bunch of ‘theoretical’ hypocrites.
U ask whom he/she thanks when he/she thanks when he/she is overwhelmed when he/she sees a waterfall etc. ? I’ll answer that for u – the same one when I see a deformed/malformed child !
If your Jesus is all that great – shouldn’t/wouldn’t he help Rick Warren’s son who struggled for 26 yrs with his condition (when U’ll have all the finest so called ‘healing ministers & ministries’ ) before he finally shot & killed himself in May 2013 ?
Are Christians hypocrites? Absolutely! Am I a Hypocrite? Without a doubt. In fact, Pandey, churches are FILLED with hypocrites every Sunday. But don’t worry, Pandey; there’s always room for one more.
As for your comment about Rick Warren, instead of taking a cheap shot from the sidelines, do a bit of internet searching and read what Rick Warren HIMSELF had to say about his son’s sad life and death.
Where is the Psalm that you quoted above? “You are precious to Me, and I have given you a special place of honour. I love you. That’s why I am willing to trade others, to give up whole nations, to save your life.”
Please tell me. thanks.
Hi Renee: It’s Isaiah 43:4. 🙂
Hello my name is Scott ,I read the essay quoted above and must say , if a group of charitable organizations goes to the aid of those during a disaster . When asked say they are led by God to do so , one has two answers the believer in its Gods calling and the did believer who can factually point out your a Charity.
For me God is within me and I can share him but a personal relationship is the true key to following Jesus.
You have delivered “the gospel message” in such a clear, concise, relevant way. Thank you!